Why am I writing this?
A little insight into why I decided to write about how to be good in bed, and why I write myself - without AI.
I've discovered coding back in 2013 and three years later I spent all my summer building my first Laravel app which is still in production by the non-profit I've built for.
Now I'm struggling to find the balance between enjoying the power of "I can build this myself" and not chocking myself to death trying to build everything myself.
As it is common for developers to be less articulate, I decided to leverage writing about my endeavours, to keep me up.
Recently a girl, I had met years ago, came across this blog and asked why I write this. I felt a bit surprised as at the bottom of my blog I have a little "about me" section where I share my intentions. I shared the same with her.
Basically, I wish to practice my eloquence in the rise of AI-written content. Especially when the majority will shoot themselves by outsourcing writing to ChatGPT. Another reason: I used to be insanely insecure and shy about the entire sex thing. Now I am grateful to have changed, and want to share the same things with my younger self (or like audience).
She then shared an extremely heartwarming message and told me that I should write this post. I think she has a point. Personally, on several occasions I had refused someone's advice just because I questioned the value of it. However, I am not proud of that. There is never too much knowledge our brains can hold. Every time I took something I felt was worthless, it seemed to magically come back useful in the short or distant future.
I think becoming good in bed is a very important thing in many aspects. It is like being a handyman and knowing how to change a tire on a car. First of all, it infuses one with a lot of confidence. That, when many of us feel shy and uncomfortable talking about it, is very helpful. One's confidence can positively impact the openness of both partners.
Good sex is only 20% of any relationship, but bad sex is essentially 80% of the connection and it will kill it.
This might be difficult to understand at first. I was in fact told this by the girl that I fell in love with. What this means is that when physical needs are satisfied, they only complete a small part of the picture. On the contrary, when sex is bad, it's essentially like a leaky bottle. It's only a matter of time until all the juice will run out and the two will part ways.
This doesn't need to happen. Being able to give someone a good sexual experience makes both feel more confident, more connected, and more safe.
But the craziest part of all, it really doesn't take as much. The majority of us are taught in school how to put on external contraception - a condom. But we are never taught about the importance of, for instance, foreplay. Yet there is so much more.
Just a bit of knowledge, a bit of passion, and a bit of patience from a guy, or from a leading partner, can go such a long way. Put it on both, and it can move mountains. I focus on a guy as when I write, I imagine that I'm talking to the young me. This, of course, is unisex and applies to the beautiful gender as well.
